Tuesday, November 20, 2012

I Bow To Single Moms

So a little background.  Hubby started law school in 2002/2003.  We spent that year apart while I finished up at ASU and planned our wedding.  It was hard.  Luckily, I had my mom's flight benefits and flew for free so I made it up to Ohio to visit every couple months.  I was also busy with school, friends and wedding planning.  It was still hard but we made it through no worse for wear.

So this is what I've been telling myself since Hubby left on Saturday.  I said, "Self.  It's a mere month.  It's not a year or even 2 went longer during that year not seeing him than you are spending apart now.  This is not a big deal. And you thought you were busy before??  You've got 2 kids now!  You've got to get them up, get them dressed, get them fed...there are lunches to be made!  You've got to get yourself showered, dressed and ready.  Get everyone off to school and yourself to work!  And this is all before 8 am!  Then you've got the evenings...homework, dinner, baths, stories, bedtime, sorting through stuff for the move!  When are you going to have time to miss him?!?!"  So that's been my pep talk for 3 days now.  And it's far as missing him goes.  I'm also older and more mature now so that's undoubtedly helping as well.

Something else we discovered last night was skype!  We didn't have this back in 2002.  Or if we did, we didn't know about it.  How fun!  It's basically video conferencing using your computer.  Very handy.  The girls loved it and it's nice to be able to actually chat as if he's in the same room.  This little innovation truly makes long distance relationships easier! that's all well and good for the emotional side of everything. It's that to do list I ran through.  While it's very handy at keeping me's only Day 3 and I'm exhausted!  I have done virtually no moving prep work as I'm just trying to get a routine down right now.  Unfortunately, it's a luxury I don't have.  I really do have to get on top of all the moving stuff.  The gym is almost already a distant memory.  We do own a treadmill and I've thought about working off some of this stress at night but we'll see if that actually happens.  There's a reason I have a gym membership...I find it extremely difficult to get motivated at home.

So I say all of that to say, while I've always had a lot of respect for single moms...I truly bow to you.  I don't know how you do it day in and day out for so long.

There is some good news in my life (not that any of this is really bad...just stressful).  I am down 2.5 lbs since Friday morning.  Feeling good about that.  I'm really focusing on my food and trying not to snack.  I'm also wearing my PanAm pencil skirt today and feeling sassy.  And for the first time ever, I decided to go truly old school and wore my pearls today.  I never had pearls...never liked them much but as I've matured (ahem) they've grown on me.  Anyway, I got a string of my grandmother's when she passed away but I have never worn them.  There's a first time for everything.

So that's my life at the moment.  Boss is out of the office this week so it's nice and quiet.  She creates drama around here.  I'm working from home tomorrow.  I've got pies to bake and the girls' turkey trots at their school.  Yes...I'll be running with them again.  Last year was the first year I actually ran with Maddie at hers and I felt so good about it.  This year, I get to do 2.  :)

Hope y'all are having a great week!


jennxaz said...

I agree...I don't know how single moms do it! Pearls look fabulous lovey! and I think you are managing stupendously!

Jeanette said...

Being without my partner is SO hard for me day to day, and I only have a dog and a cat!! You are doing great, just keep plugging away and doing your best... the time will fly by!

speck said...

We mothers/wives are busy women!

I love the pearls. They will look great with a pair of jeans too!

Happy Thanksgiving.


Dawnya said...

Just take a breath! It will be over before you know it. Then you will look back and see how much of a badass you really are. You got this.

By the are working out...just not in a tradtional way. It takes a lot of work to be a mommy. LOL

Connie O said...

My boss creates drama too! It's so peaceful this week because she is out all week. Even if she is not creating drama for me personally, I have to listen to her creating it for everyone else because we are all in a cube farm--including the bosses.

Sorry for your long-distance stress. I'm guessing the month will fly by almost before you know it.

Good luck with the turkey trots!

Theresa aka Tessie Rose said...

Hang in there!!! Love the pearls. I was a single mother for long enough, I wouldn't want to do it again. It is hard! Best of luck!

RockBand Barbie said...

I was a single mom for 5 years...thank God for having a supportive and helpful family. Skype is wonderful thing. And ya can skype after the kids go to bed ;)

adorkbl said...

Hubs and I were long distance when we first met and it was tough... back in the days before Skype... but 2 kids and no hubs... sounds hella tough. While planning a move. If you need anything... let me know. I can come help you pack on a weekend. Hang in there. It will go fast.

Run, Chelle, Run! said...

I can't even days as a single mom were so long ago that I've forgotten what it was like (when my oldest was 1 through 3) but oof. You will get through, just don't be too hard on yourself or the kids about getting everything done! :)

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Leigh C. said...

I work with teen aged single moms and I don't know how they do it! Hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving:)

Holly Rose said...

What an awesome blog post!! As a single Mom, I really appreciate that very much!!! I know you will make it through this time even though it will be tough. But you kick butt so you will make it through!! And packing up for a move is always a workout anyway!! Congratulations on doing so awesome!