Amy addressed this in her blog not too long ago about whether or not the obsession is healthy. At the time, I believe I commented that for me, it is healthy but now I'm not so sure. I keep going back and forth on this and now that leads me to why.
I frequently stop by LapBandTalk.com and read through the pre-op, post-op and general discussion boards there. I have the hope that if I see what everyone is going through in their process that I won't be too surprised when these things happen to me (i.e. slim to no weight loss during bandster hell). I'm sure I'll still be surprised as hell when I have my first PB or worried that I did something to mess up my band the first time I work out but I'm confident that I am going to be as prepared as one can possibly be when (not if) my surgery date finally arrives.
Here is my issue, it seems to me that the people I read on the forums have a lot more issues than those who write the blogs I read. My husband and I have been trying to figure this out and we have a few theories. The first is that people who are having issues are more likely to post in the forum than those who aren't. People who are doing great with the band don't feel the need to post about it in a forum because they're busy living their new, wonderful, thinner lives! The second theory is that perhaps people who blog are somehow held more accountable for their progress so they are less likely to fall off the wagon too badly. They'll keep up with their fills, etc. because they don't want to pubicly admit that they are failing. I know being banded isn't all sunshine and roses and I see the struggle in the blogs I read but it seems that there is a light for the people who blog. They know they'll overcome whatever obstacle they are met with and be successful while the posters on the forum seem to have an air of hoplessness about them.
I find lots of reasons to rationalize why this poster or that poster isn't doing well with the band (and believe me, I realize how ridiculous it is for me to pass judgement seeing as I don't even have a band yet, but I digress). It seems the most common thing I see is, "I've had 2 fills and it's been two years and I've only lost 10 lbs!" Well, my question to them would be, "Do you really think 2 fills was enough?" Then I see, "I was too ashamed to go back to my doctor." While I can sympathize, it seems like after going through surgery and all that, you would want to be holding the doctor just as accountable as yourself for your progress and whether or not you're reaching good restriction. Another one: "I can't keep any food down so all I eat is ice cream and candy." Ummm...ok...seriously? I mean...I guess for me, it's that old saying, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." After months of not losing weight doing what you're doing, wouldn't you try something different?
I know this post is coming off as judgemental but I guess I just really want to understand. Most of the blogs I've read (and I admit I haven't read through all the ones I want to yet...darn work gets in the way) are full of positive thinking and successful weight loss stories...even if they haven't reached goal weight yet. But the people on the forums seem to either just be starting out like me so they're just really excited or have been banded for quite some time and just aren't losing weight. It's seriously driving me crazy because I go back and forth between the positive light that are the bloggers and the negativity that seems to haunt the boards. I want to be one of you delightfully witty, successful bloggers but I worry that I am going to be posting on the forum 3 years from now,15 lbs lighter, wondering where everything went so wrong!
So my question to you, my faithful followers of the blogosphere, is which is a more accurate representation of those with a band? Do more people fail than succeed? Why do you think there is such a discrepency between the struggles those anonymous people on the forum face vs the successes of those in blogville?